when someone joins they dont get the map downloaded to them that i have.... the custom map is running, it just wont start to send it to them.. HELP!!

Make sure the port 10 above your Soldat port is open for auto-map downloading to work.

Example:

27307->27317

And that Allow_Download=1 in soldat.ini

and that, (if youre firewall is like mine) that your firewall is set to allow incoming connections to soldat

it still wont work...
its not starting a download when they join still :/

If you're OK connection-wise, make sure that the map name isn't noot long. I've had problems with that.