i have been trying to connect to my friends server but his ping keeps coming up as ??? but when i pinged him with the command prompt i got 60ms why would that be shouldnt it be coming up as 60ms instead of ???

he needs to forward the ports for the soldat server in his router. please have him see the instructions in the sticky for this forum

http://www.portforward.com/routers.htm

thanks, i might be the one with the router now that you mention it but im not sure.

if he's hosting the server, then the problem is on his end